Don't get caught up in what hasn't happened yet and allowing that to define what you believe is possible for the future.

In January 2020 I was 41. Single as a Pringle. Hanging in Hollywood - having a freaking blast on a solo trip.

Due to my past career as an air hostess I was a bit of an LA veteran.

So I should have guessed that the location of my air bnb - it was halfway between the Scientology building and Pretty Woman where the guy says "Everyone in Hollywood has a dream". Might suggest that it was gonna be a bit on the edgy weird side!!

And weird it was!

And when I say weird, I mean weird!

When I walked in the door the first thing I saw was Zoltar from the movie Big!

Which if you don’t know is a kind of Genie head in a machine that you put money in and it tells your fortune!! (Exhibit A actual picture!) ⬇️

And Zoltar wasn’t alone!

To the left, there was an unfinished but varnished 5ft (ish) box.

And draped around it - like a python curling around the neck of a snake tamer. Was this big chunky, solid chain with a hefty padlock securing it to the box in the shape of an X! (Exhibit B actual picture)! ⬇️

When I saw it I didn’t know whether to laugh or run. It was all so weird. And to this day I still don't get why I didn't open the door and flee. But I didn't!

To be honest, although it was weird. I didn't sense any danger.

So I stood and waited for the host to arrive to show me to my apartment.

When Maria (the host) arrived. As she greeted me, I thought she'd mention the weirdness in the reception area. But nothing!

As she showed me down the dimly lit corridor to my apartment. There were old school magician pictures on the wall. And the carpet had wands on it!

I did wonder what the hell would be in the apartment. Floating beds and a magic carpet?! 🤔

Anyway the apartment didn’t have any crazy magic tricks inside - much to my disappointment!!

I thought the universe was helping me manifest my childhood dream of being Debbie Magee!! (if you’re not familiar she was the assistant to a renowned UK magician back in the day - fabulous sparkly outfits)

Oh and of course I asked the host Maria about all the odd collection of stuff. Turns out the apartment block is attached to the Hollywood Magic Club!

Anyway onto how this connects to me manifesting my partner. Something I know some of you would love to have happen. But have doubts about whether it actually will.

The beginning of my manifestation journey

At the time of that LA trip.

I was in the early stages of learning about the power of manifestation. And putting it into practice in my own life.

I'd decided I wanted to manifest a partner. So I crafted a list. Clarified what mattered to me in a relationship/partner and why. And begun taking the aligned action I needed to.

Majority of that aligned action focused on:

• Healing from past hurts. (Turns out I attracted unavailable men because I was unavailable. I had huge unconscious fears around intimacy and commitment).

• Healing my inner child

• Healing my shadow

• Reprogramming outdated belief systems

• Building my self-worth and getting to know who I am and what I want without the conditioning and wounds.

And more or less 4 months to the day that I entered that creepy reception. I sat on my living room floor and I got big sparkly nudge from the universe telling me to reactivate my Tinder.

I was very sceptical about this nudge. Tinder in my mind was for hook ups and kids. But I knew better than to not take this action inspired by the universe.

So I did it.

And low and behold, I met Domion (my partner) that night on Tinder. And the rest as they say is history!

We've been in a long distance for coming up to 3 years now.

And we're currently getting clear on what we want to manifest for our future. Where we want to live, the visas we need and all that kinda jazz!

Keep taking inspired action those gentle whispers and nudges from the universe. Even if it doesn't feel like it makes sense.

But I could NEVER have predicted how the relationship I desired would manifest.

After years of not being successful in romance.

I'd finally manifested an available man who pretty much aligned with everything I wanted.

Including where I wanted to live. On my list, I had written that I would love to live between the USA and the UK. When I wrote that I had no idea how it would unfold. But I knew it would.

And this is how it happened.

On Tinder

At the beginning of a global pandemic

He lives in New York

I live in London!

While I was skipping around Hollywood, bonding with Zoltar and the magicians. There's no way that I could have predicted how things would pan out.

But because of the work I’d done I was open and able to receive what the universe was sending to me!

Oh and BTW neither of us had activated international matching on Tinder. So something bigger brought us together for sure!

Anyway, if you want to manifest a partner in midlife. Here are 5 tips for manifesting success.

The 5 tips:

1. Be clear about what you want 👀

2. Do the work to make sure your unconscious mind is onboard 🧠

3.Take inspired aligned action (manifestation is magical but not magic) 🪐

4. Pull up your patience pants and trust the universe!🩲

5. Be open to the possibility that it may arrive in a different package. And be EVEN better than you could have ever imagined.  🎁💝

And here's some food for thought for your day:

Don't get caught up in what hasn't happened and allow that to define what you believe is possible for the future.

If what you want hasn’t manifested into reality yet, it doesn't mean it won't.

The universe (or whatever higher power/force you align with) wants you to have everything that's meant for you.

And where you have desire that's a sign that something is meant for you.

So your next aligned action steps are:

• Follow your desires

• Continue to remove what's in the way both physically and emotionally

• Give yourself permission to feel worthy of what you want now

• And keep taking inspired action (those gentle whispers and nudges from the universe). Even if it doesn't feel like it makes sense.

So that’s all for now. But I want to end our conversation by giving you a gift.

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